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The TRUTH About Your Body

The TRUTH About Your Body

Recently, I was looking through photos from this summer, and realizing what an amazing life my kids have! We live on a ranch with lots of opportunities to work hard, open spaces to play, and oodles of cousins that are a part of their every day. Each morning, they get up, and after breakfast and family scripture time, they head to the barn. The three older kids all have 4-H steers that they work with each day, preparing for fair….

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Rock Solid–Our Girls Camp Message

Rock Solid–Our Girls Camp Message

Back in February, I told my mom about this project I wanted to start–all about helping women achieve better health by learning to love their bodies. I also told her that my sister-in-law, Heidi, was starting the process of becoming a life coach, and that she wanted to help women find more confidence and joy by managing their mental and emotional health. She was excited for both of us, and then excited for herself as a light came on in…

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My Trip to Eugene and Why I Always Cry

My Trip to Eugene and Why I Always Cry

Earlier this month, I went to Eugene, Oregon, with my dad and my 13-year-old son, Connor, where we spent four days watching the NCAA Track and Field Championships. As track enthusiasts (that may be a mild term, considering my son’s OBSESSION with pole vault, my dad being a track coach and having been to the NCAA Championships for nearly 20 straight years, and myself being willing to take babies, toddlers, and young children to our state track and field championships…

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How to Overcome Perfectionism, Part 3: Stop Worrying About What Other People Think

How to Overcome Perfectionism, Part 3: Stop Worrying About What Other People Think

Welcome back, recovering perfectionists!  Are you re-thinking failure? Are you letting go of all or nothing thinking? I hope so! It can be so freeing and empowering! I had a friend several years ago post a photo of a cookie sheet full of perfectly arranged chicken nuggets with the caption, “Who does this?”  Her husband had arranged them so beautifully, and she was wondering if he was the only person in the world to do such a thing, because she…

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How to Overcome Perfectionism, Part 2: Get Rid of All or Nothing Thinking

How to Overcome Perfectionism, Part 2: Get Rid of All or Nothing Thinking

“I’ll never be skinny. I just like sweets too much.” I just saw this statement from a friend on facebook not too long ago. How many of us think things like this? This is a classic perfectionist statement. And if we generalize it to include just about anything, it would sound more like this: “If I can’t do it perfectly, I might as well not do it at all.” What if we could eat sweets and still be skinny? What…

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How to Overcome Perfectionism, Part 1: Re-think Failure

How to Overcome Perfectionism, Part 1: Re-think Failure

FAILURE   You probably have some kind of emotion start inside you as you read that word. And it probably isn’t positive. Maybe you add a bunch of other meaning to it as well, like the words in the gloomy cloud above. I feel a weight on me just from reading those words. For perfectionists, FAILURE is our worst fear. And nearly everything falls within that label, because anything less than perfect must be failure. I have struggled with my…

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From Surviving to Thriving: Living A Tempo Run Life

From Surviving to Thriving: Living A Tempo Run Life

I have been a self-proclaimed “runner” for over twenty years now. In high school, I ran track, and did the middle distance events, from the 300m hurdles up to the 1600m run. But once I was done with that season of life, I settled into longer distance running. I began running as my main (and sometimes only) form of exercise and entering a couple races each year, ranging from 5ks to half marathons. Other than the occasional long runs when…

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Wean Yourself From Willpower

Wean Yourself From Willpower

Have you ever wondered about those people who can stick with healthy habits? People who exercise daily, year after year? People who eat healthy consistently, not just when they are on a diet? How do they do it? How do they stay motivated? How does their willpower last so long? Let me tell you a secret. They’re not using willpower. WHAT?? They have TONS of willpower, right? No. They’re just really not using it. Not often anyway. So now that…

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From Hate to Love: How to Cross the River

From Hate to Love: How to Cross the River

On our ranch, we have a beautiful, secluded place that we simply, but affectionately, call “The River Bottoms.” It’s only about a mile from our home, but it sits down lower and is out of the way, away from any roads and houses, and when you go there, you just feel like you are the only people in the world. Completely away from it all. We love to go there for picnics, campfires, family get-togethers, friend parties, and camping trips….

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The Feel-Bads: What To Do With Negative Emotion

The Feel-Bads: What To Do With Negative Emotion

In my recent post, Feelings Drive Actions, I briefly mentioned negative emotions. Simply put, these are all the feelings that don’t feel good–the “feel-bads,” as a friend of mine used to call them. Shame, discouragement, frustration, restlessness, boredom, anger, sadness, and hatred are all feelings that fall into this category. Although I don’t believe that negative emotion can inspire positive action, we all feel negative emotion. It is part of the human experience. And I think it is supposed to…

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