If somebody told you they were going to find the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, you would laugh at them (at least inwardly.) But yet, when we tell ourselves that we can, and even should be perfect, we take ourselves seriously.
As a recovering perfectionist, let me tell you something:
Perfect is an illusion. And Perfectionism is the ultimate con artist.
The line Perfectionism sells sounds something like this: “If you just try hard enough, you can be perfect.” And then she sells it to us by adding a whole bunch of promises to the deal. She tells us that when we attain perfection, we will feel, have, and be everything we have always wanted.
When we are perfect, we will feel loved. We will feel peace. We will feel happy.
When we are perfect, we will have friends. We will have the body we have always wanted. We will have the life we dreamed for ourselves.
When we are perfect, we will be acceptable. We will be valuable. We will be worthy.
Sounds amazing, right? No wonder so many of us buy it!
But that Perfectionism, she’s good at what she does. She lures us in with her promises, she sells us her line, and then she robs us blind.
She robs us of the satisfaction of a job well done. When we get to the end of the day, regardless of the good we have done, she is there to point out everywhere we were lacking.
She robs us of the accomplishment of finishing. When something has to be perfect, we are never finished. Never.
She robs us of the excitement of beginning. When we are so worried about having to do it perfectly, we often decide that not even starting is the better option. Just think of all the things you might do if you didn’t have to do them perfectly!
If you have bought from Perfectionism, you may be digging in your heels. You may be saying, “Wait! Are you saying I should just settle for mediocrity, then?” No. That’s not at all what I am saying. What I suggest is simple, effective, and real. Let go of the illusion of “perfect” and JUST DO YOUR BEST.
Do your best, and then look at it through the lenses of reality, acceptance, and love, rather than through the shades of illusion, scrutiny, and criticism—you know, those flashy ones you bought from Perfectionism on that “3 for the price of 1!” deal a while back?
No matter how long ago you bought it, how long you have been believing it, or how badly she has been robbing you, you can free yourself from Perfectionism and all her lies. Start today. You are worth it.
Love your body, and your body will love you. ♥